What is the most important thing you have learned in life? by Bassam Atheeque
Answer by Bassam Atheeque:
The Art of Communication!
- When someone asks you “How are you?”, don’t reply the same cliched terms like fine, amazing or awesome. Instead reply “Somewhere between better and best. What about you pal?”. (Use it both while texting or talking in person).
- When someone begins a conversation with you while you are using your phone, either put down the phone immediately or say, “JUST A MOMENT PLEASE”, finish off the work as soon as possible and then reply “SORRY FOR THAT! SO YOU WERE SAYING _______”
- “So what’s the craziest thing you have done lately?”– This is a question which helps me stir up an otherwise boring conversation. Use it when you have no topic to discuss. Works like a charm.
- If you notice a person using a certain word again and again, compliment them by saying, “I really like the way you use the word _____. It suits your tone”.
- If you have an urgency to leave, use the simple words, “I really got to get going now. ______ would be furious otherwise. Hahaha”. End with a chuckle. [Fill the blank with any name]
- If you get a call while having a conversation, use the simple words, “Excuse me. I really got to take this. Please give me a minute”, rather than just rushing away with your phone.
- People love to hear their name. Use it whenever possible. Replying with “Yeah sure Alex. I will take it buddy” instead of “Yeah sure. I will take it” would seem more appealing.
- As I mentioned in my other answer , try to replace SORRY with THANK YOU in certain situations. For example, instead of saying “Sorry for being late”,you can say “Thank you for waiting”. It sounds more diplomatic.
- If you are having a small argument and the other person isn’t coping , use the soothing words, “Every person has their own opinion. I respect you for that”. It’s applicable even for Quora writers who get hate comments in their answers.
- Fill your conversations with real-life stories. “Hahaha. Even I experienced the same. THE OTHER DAY I visited our grocery store and _____”. It helps to keep the conversation funny and more lively.
- Involve the listener to your conversation too. When you are done talking, continue with, “So what’s your opinion on that?” or “Did anything similar happen to you?”.
- And when the end of the conversation is near, don’t use the same boring, “Okay see you then. Bye”. Spice it up with, “Anyway, I don’t want to monopolize all your time. It was great fun talking to you. Hope we can catch up more often.”
These little effective tweaks has helped me to spice up my way of communication in daily life conversations.
Feel free to post any query or any suggestions in the comments. I might add it up in the answer later!
See you then. I don’t want to monopolize all your time!